Tuesday, May 12, 2026

Finding Hope in Grief

May 12, 2026
Tuesday of the Sixth Week of Easter
Readings for Today
Saints Nereus and Achilleus, Martyrs—Optional Memorial
Saint Pancras, Martyr—Optional Memorial

God the Father, by Jacob Herreyns

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Jesus said to his disciples: “Now I am going to the one who sent me, and not one of you asks me, ‘Where are you going?’ But because I told you this, grief has filled your hearts. But I tell you the truth, it is better for you that I go. For if I do not go, the Advocate will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you.” John 16:5–7

Each of us experiences grief. The death of a loved one, the loss of a job, and a serious illness are a few of many immediate causes of grief. Jesus addresses the grief the disciples were experiencing as they listened to Him explain that He was going to the One Who sent Him, to the Father: “But because I told you this, grief has filled your hearts.”

It’s easy to relate to the disciples’ grief. Imagine that you find out that your best friend is moving to another state. You would have a deep sense of loss upon hearing the news. This is what the disciples were experiencing. The closeness they shared with Jesus was profoundly consoling to them. In Him, they learned so much and began to understand the purity and power of divine love, likely for the first time. The news of His departure filled them with grief.

Emotions are neither good nor bad; they are natural reactions to perceived goods or evils. The disciples’ initial perception of Jesus’ earthly departure was as an undesirable loss, so they felt grief. Jesus, fully understanding human nature, addressed their grief with great empathy. Simply identifying what they were feeling would have been a comfort to them. But Jesus goes further: “But I tell you the truth, it is better for you that I go. For if I do not go, the Advocate will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you.”

At Jesus’ words, the disciples might have experienced the beginnings of hope, but they did not fully understand. Only after Jesus left them, ascended to the Father, and sent the Holy Spirit at Pentecost did they begin to understand. And only after living with the presence of the Holy Spirit in their lives for some time did they more fully comprehend the depth of this promise. This reflects our own spiritual journey; it takes time and openness for the wisdom of God’s plan to unfold in our lives.

Whenever we face grief or confusion, we would benefit from pondering this exchange between Jesus and the disciples. Romans 8:28 tells us, “We know that all things work for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.” That means “all things,” not just some things. When we fully commit ourselves to God and His perfect will, everything we encounter has the potential to produce good fruit. Every sorrow, joy, cross, victory, or persecution, as well as all the emotions that accompany these experiences, is able to be used as an instrument of God’s grace in our lives, and through us, in the lives of others.

The reason this is so is because of God’s perfect wisdom. From the divine perspective, Jesus transformed suffering and death through His Cross and Resurrection, and nothing is beyond the reach of God’s power. God can use even something as painful as the tragic and sudden loss of a loved one for good.

Believing this instills hope in our lives, which is among the three most important virtues. Faith is the certain belief that God can work all things for good, and hope is the drive that moves us toward the fulfillment of that belief. Together, faith and hope produce charity, the greatest gift of all, the only gift that endures even in Heaven. Just as the disciples later understood the value of Jesus’ departure—when they received the Holy Spirit and discovered that the Lord they loved now lived within them, never to leave—so we too will come to that same realization when we open ourselves to the indwelling of the Holy Spirit through prayer, trust, and surrender to His guidance.

Reflect today on the moment in your life when you faced grief or loss. Offer that memory to God in prayer, asking Him to reveal how His grace was at work in that situation, bringing growth, healing, or a deeper understanding of His love. Ask the Holy Spirit to fill your heart with faith and hope, trusting that even in the face of sorrow, God’s perfect plan is unfolding for good.

Lord of perfect wisdom, I do believe that all things work for the good for those who love You. When I feel pain and grief, please give me hope. Holy Spirit, please come to me and dwell within me, so that all I experience will lead to the good You intend. Jesus, I trust in You.

Monday, May 11, 2026

Comment une créature peut-elle rester aussi fidèle à quelque chose que le monde entier considère comme terminé ?

Vingt-huit mois de disparition, les militaires avaient dit à sa famille qu'il ne reviendrait sans doute jamais. Sa femme avait organisé une cérémonie en sa mémoire, ses filles avaient appris à vivre sans lui, et le monde entier avait continué d'avancer. Mais son golden retriever, chaque matin à l'aube, allait s'asseoir près du portail et attendait. Huit cent cinquante-quatre matins. Sans en manquer un seul. Alors que tout le monde avait perdu espoir, le chien, lui, ne l'avait jamais perdu. Et à la fin, il s'est avéré que le chien savait ce que personne ne savait.
Et à la fin, il s'est avéré que le chien avait raison.
Je m’appelle Sarah. J’ai trente-quatre ans. Mon mari, James, était soldat dans l’armée britannique. En mars 2016, il a été déployé à l’étranger pour une opération dangereuse. Il m’a dit : « Un ou deux mois, et je rentre à la maison. » Nous nous sommes embrassés sur le pas de la porte, il a embrassé nos deux filles, Emily et Chloe, a caressé la tête de notre chien, puis il est parti. C’était la dernière fois que nous le voyions pendant plus de huit cents jours.
Quatre mois plus tard, les militaires sont venus chez nous. J’ai reconnu leur véhicule avant même qu’ils n’appuient sur la sonnette. Ils ont dit : « Porté disparu, présumé tué. » Ces mots, je les ai entendus chaque nuit dans mon sommeil. « Présumé ».
Ce seul mot, suspendu dans l’air comme quelque chose que personne ne savait comment traiter. J’ai organisé une cérémonie commémorative en août, dans l’église du village. Les amis, les voisins, la famille ont rempli les bancs. Emily, neuf ans, et Chloe, six ans, portaient des robes noires et se tenaient par la main pendant toute la cérémonie. J’étais assise au premier rang, et à côté de moi il n’y avait personne – seulement un drapeau plié et la photo de James.
Mais dans notre maison, quelqu’un d’autre n’avait pas accepté non plus.
Corporal était notre golden retriever. C’était le chien de James, dans tous les sens du terme. Quand James a été déployé à l’étranger, Corporal se réveillait chaque matin à 6h30, marchait jusqu’au portail du jardin, s’asseyait et attendait. Il restait là jusqu’à 8h00. Puis il rentrait. Il faisait cela chaque jour, sans en manquer un seul. Même le matin de la cérémonie. Même le matin de Noël, quand la neige avait tout recouvert et que je le regardais depuis la fenêtre de l’étage, mes larmes gelant sur mes joues. 854 jours. J’ai compté, plus tard.
La vie s’était lentement réorganisée autour du manque. Emily est retournée à l’école. Chloe a appris à faire ses lacets. Je suis retournée au travail. Le silence dans la maison était devenu normal, même si le vide n’avait jamais vraiment disparu.
Mais chaque matin à 6h30, Corporal s’asseyait près du portail. Je le regardais et je pensais : comment est-ce possible ? Comment une créature peut-elle rester aussi fidèle à quelque chose que le monde entier considère comme terminé ? Je croyais qu’un jour, il s’arrêterait.
Que la peine finirait par s’estomper, et qu’il comprendrait que le portail ne s’ouvrirait pour personne. Mais Corporal n’avait jamais perdu espoir. Et j’avais commencé à craindre qu’il ne le perde jamais. Qu’il vieillirait près de ce portail, à attendre, et que cela ajouterait à mon cœur une douleur que je ne pouvais déjà plus supporter.
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But Corporal never did

A British soldier vanished during a deployment in early 2022.
After months without contact, the military told his family there was almost no chance he was still alive. His wife eventually held a memorial service and tried to rebuild life for their daughters.
But their golden retriever never accepted it.
For 673 straight mornings, the dog sat at the front gate waiting for him to come home.
And somehow… the dog ended up being right.
His name was Daniel Mercer.
Thirty-two years old. British Army. Quiet personality, sharp sense of humor, the type of man who fixed things around the house before anyone even noticed they were broken.
He lived with his wife Hannah and their two daughters in a small village in North Yorkshire.
Before every deployment, Daniel followed the exact same morning routine.
Coffee at 5:15.
Boots by the hallway radiator.
A quick kiss goodbye.
And at precisely 5:45, he’d walk through the garden gate toward the waiting military vehicle at the end of the road.
Every single time, their golden retriever followed him to the gate.
The dog’s name was Corporal.
Daniel jokingly called him “the only soldier in the house more loyal than me.”
In March 2022, Daniel disappeared during an overseas operation in a dangerous region near the border of an active conflict zone.
At first, the family was told communication had simply been lost.
Then days turned into weeks.
Weeks turned into months.
Search teams found damaged vehicles.
Equipment.
Signs of an ambush.
But no Daniel.
Four months later, military officials updated his status officially:
Missing, presumed dead.
Hannah remembered almost none of the conversation after hearing those words.
Just the silence afterward.
The strange numbness.
The feeling that her entire future had quietly collapsed in the middle of an ordinary afternoon.
In August, family and friends gathered at the village church for a memorial service.
A framed photograph of Daniel sat near the altar beside a folded Union Jack.
Their daughters wore black coats and held hands through most of the ceremony.
People cried.
Shared stories.
Talked about bravery and sacrifice.
Outside the house that same morning, Corporal sat beside the front gate staring down the road exactly like he always did.
At 5:45 AM.
Right on schedule.
He stayed there until seven.
Then walked back inside.
The next morning, he did it again.
And the next.
And the next.
At first Hannah thought the habit would fade naturally.
Dogs mourn too, people told her.
Eventually routines disappear.
But Corporal never stopped.
Rain.
Wind.
Snow.
Every morning at 5:45, the retriever walked to the gate and sat silently facing the road.
By Christmas, the routine had become painful to watch.
One freezing December morning, Hannah looked out from the upstairs bedroom and saw the dog sitting in fresh snow waiting beside a gate no one had opened in nearly a year.
She sat on the edge of the bed and cried quietly so her daughters wouldn’t hear.
Life slowly kept moving anyway.
School runs.
Groceries.
Laundry.
Homework.
The strange thing about grief is how ordinary life keeps happening around it.
Hannah eventually returned to work part-time.
The girls laughed again sometimes.
Neighbors stopped bringing casseroles.
People stopped mentioning Daniel as often because they thought it might hurt less that way.
But Corporal still waited every morning.
One evening Hannah said softly to her mother, “I think the dog still believes he’s coming home.”
Her mother glanced toward the window.
“Maybe he knows something we don’t.”
Hannah shook her head.
“No,” she whispered. “He’s gone.”
Then came January 2024.
Cold air.
Gray skies.
An ordinary afternoon.
At around 4:30 PM, Hannah heard the front gate creak open.
She almost ignored it.
Then Corporal suddenly lifted his head from the sofa.
The dog stood completely still.
Not barking.
Not moving.
Just staring toward the door with total focus.
A second later came a sound Hannah had never heard from him before.
A deep, trembling cry.
Like something breaking open inside him.
He bolted toward the front entrance so hard the mail slot rattled.
Confused, Hannah walked toward the window.
And froze.
A man in military uniform stood at the gate.
Thinner now.
Older somehow.
A scar along one side of his face.
One leg stiff from injury.
Duffel bag hanging from his shoulder.
For three full seconds, her brain refused to understand what she was seeing.
Then her knees nearly gave out.
Daniel.
Alive.
Somehow alive.
Before she could even reach the door, Corporal exploded outside.
The golden retriever sprinted across the garden path and launched himself directly into Daniel’s chest.
Daniel dropped to his knees instantly.
The dog pressed against him frantically while Daniel buried his face into the thick golden fur with both arms wrapped around him.
Corporal made loud, shaking cries that sounded almost human.
Like 673 mornings of waiting had finally poured out all at once.
Neighbors started opening doors.
Someone across the street pulled out a phone and captured the moment without even thinking.
The image showed a soldier kneeling on wet pavement clutching his dog tightly while tears streamed down his face. Behind him stood Hannah covering her mouth in shock near the open gate.
Later that night, the photo spread online with a simple caption:
“He came home. The dog knew.”
The details stayed mostly private afterward.
Daniel had been captured during the operation and moved through multiple locations before finally being recovered during an international military operation nearly two years later.
He spent weeks in medical treatment before returning home.
He specifically asked the military not to warn his family first.
He wanted to walk through the gate himself.
Today, Corporal is seven years old.
And he no longer waits outside at 5:45 every morning.
The routine ended the exact day Daniel came home.
Now the dog sleeps stretched across Daniel’s chest every night like he’s making sure he can’t disappear again.
And whenever Daniel leaves the house, Corporal waits by the front window instead of the gate.
From there, he can see farther down the road.
A few months after returning home, Daniel told Hannah something she still thinks about often.
“There were days I survived only because I believed someone was still waiting for me,” he said quietly.
Hannah smiled through tears.
“I thought you meant us.”
Daniel looked over at the dog sleeping nearby.
“I did,” he answered softly. “But I meant him too.”
“Everybody else eventually started learning how to say goodbye.”
“But Corporal never did.”