Monday, March 16, 2026

What is a lie people tell themselves to feel better about the world around them?

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Interesting question, in my view, one of the many lies we tell ourselves to feel better is the lie that someone else other than ourselves is responsible for our current state, our happiness, the quality of our life, and our reality. In other words, the lie that our well-being, our happiness, and our life, in general, is the responsibility of other people or the government.

Yes, you and I cannot control everything in our environment; in most cases, we cannot control that which happens to us. Truth be told, our justification, reasons, or excuses we may advance, may make sense. However, the truth is that in the end, no amount of justification, reasons, or excuses will change a thing.

Nevertheless, we are always 100% in control of our reactions (perception, attitude, emotion), our choices and actions, or the choices/actions we do not make.

The effects of that are that,

  • · One is likely not going to take ownership (victim mentality)
  • · One is likely not going to take responsibility (take charge)
  • · One is likely not going to be accountable (liable)
  • · There will be Less or lack of proper personal investment (knowledge and healthy)
  • · There will be Less or lack of proper personal care and love
  • · There will be an attitude of carelessness and entitlement
  • · There will be a lack of self-awareness, disorganization, and lack of self-regulation.
  • · One is likely to blame everyone or everything but himself or herself.

In essence, Fyodor Dostoevsky highlights the following above lying, he says; “Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”

I do realize that for many of us, lying is easier and convenient, be that as it may, we should never forget that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie hurts forever. It is time to step up, it is time to grow, time to progress, time to be a blessing, time to live life and live fully.

In ending,

“I've learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and not on our circumstances.” - Martha Washington

Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.” - Nelson Mandela

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” - Jim Rohn

What is the best way to stay healthy?

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I am not saying, that I have reached the pinnacle of staying healthy but out of 10 I would say I might be some where between 7 to 8.5..here are some tips,,

  1. Say no to alcohol and smoking, it will save your money and in return it will provide you with good health of lungs and liver.
  2. Don't try to over eat, just eat 85% to 90% of your appetite.
  3. Do some exercise on daily or alternate days.

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  1. Don't eat junk food like burgers pizza or Momos on daily basis, it can take A toll on your liver and metabolism.
  2. Don't skip your morning breakfast. Tho my fav is milk and banana packed with energy.
  • After dinner go for a walk, 15 mins will be sufficient.

Thanks for reading though I have written it in some haphazard way but from My side I have given genuine tips which I try to stick with.

Persevere💫

Why is the Philippines still richer and look a lot more modern than Vietnam?

Because many Filipinos love to dig out photos of Vietnam like this:

They then proceed to compare it with photos of their cities like this:

Then conclude that their country looks richer and more developed. But the reality is much more complicated.

You see, each tiny white blob you see in the Vietnam photo is a private property. Something that looks like this on land:

They are called tube houses, a characteristic feature of Vietnamese cities. Tube houses came about due to people’s desire to make use of their small land. The more money you have, the more you build up.

The government is lenient, allowing you to build as many storeys as you like. So it’ completely normal to wake up one day and find your window blocked off because your neighbour decides to add another storey.

So why is this important to this discussion?

These houses are almost always used as commercial properties as well as place of resident if it is facing a street. Which means at least 50% of the small white blobs you see are commercial properties and businesses, at least 70% of them have uses other than residential. Their value will only go up and up as Vietnam’s economy grows. And they have been, which is why the number of rich people grow exponentially in Vietnam.

Importance of land value and home ownership

Have you ever wondered why there are so many family owned hotels and guest houses in Vietnam?

Because the tube houses were turned into a hotel business by the family.

If the business doesn’t do well? Well they can close it and turn the lower floor into a phone shop, the second floor into a childcare centre etc etc

Every single business you see in this photo is someone’s house:

If you look at the first Vietnam skyline photo, you’re probably thinking that Vietnamese cities have no trees. But quite the opposite, the trees simply got blocked off by the height of the tube houses. So the only trees you see are parks.

And you must be thinking the tall tube houses only exist in Hanoi and HCMC, but not at all. The tube houses turned businesses are all over Vietnam .

Notice the tube houses on two sides are as tall as the government building in the middle.

So to Filipinos, Vietnam might look poorer than the Philippines because their definition of rich and developed is tall skyscrapers and many cars on the roads.

But to Vietnamese people, we understand that tall skyscrapers don’t mean they are richer. Because people who own those skyscrapers belong to the 1%.

But people who own Vietnamese tube houses are at least 90% of our population. And people who own tube houses that can be turned into a business is at least 80%.

Tube houses in Hai Duong, a small town East of Hanoi

Tube house turned hotel. Tube house can be as high as you like.

Keeping up with the Jones Vietnamese style is keeping up with your neighbor’s tube house. Don’t be the shame of the neighborhood by having the shortest house!

If you look at this photo, you might think a company built them, but no, they were built by separate families:

In other countries in the world, commercial properties are often owned by the rich and then leased out, but in Vietnam, if your land faces the street, congratulations you own a commercial property

Tube houses in Quang Ninh province. You can design them any way you like.

And guess what? Yes tube houses can be turned into offices as well:

Yes, these are tube houses.

You know we have many housing developments that look expensive and fancy like this:

But many of these people would rather have a tube house in a busy district, facing the street than one of these mansions if given the choice.

Perspective about skyscrapers

Skyscrapers are proofs that some people are rich, but are they proofs that the general population is rich?

One guy owns this, the tallest building in Southeast Asia in 2020:

But can we say we are rich because of him? Can we say we are richest in Southeast Asia because his building is the tallest?

We actually love and look up to rich people, but it makes us the happiest to think everyone is contributing to Vietnam’s economy and not just piggybacking on a few rich people. As I think it’s unfair for them to having to carry more than 100 million people.

So to answer this question: looking rich is a perception. So our definition of looking rich is actually different from Filipinos, as seen through many answers here.

To determine which country is really richer, I guess we will have to wait until the Vietnam and Philippines new GDP is announced next year, as both Vietnam and Philippines are undergoing GDP revision. Either way it’s best for both countries to continue to improve the lives of their citizens, as richer citizens are synonymous with richer countries.

Miracles and Faith

March 16, 2026
Monday of the Fourth Week of Lent
Readings for Today

The Centurion Kneeling at the Feet of Christ By Joseph-Marie Vien

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“Unless you people see signs and wonders, you will not believe.” The royal official said to him, “Sir, come down before my child dies.” Jesus said to him, “You may go; your son will live.” The man believed what Jesus said to him and left. John 4:48–50

What is the most precious gift our Lord could give to you? If your spouse, child, or close friend were gravely ill, would a miracle be the gift you sought? If your financial situation were dire, would you ask for monetary assistance? If you were suffering from a chronic disease, would your prayer be for a cure?

Though we should entrust these situations to God’s grace, it’s important to understand that the gift of faith far surpasses any immediate miracle, assistance, or relief we might seek. Faith is a most precious gift because it enables us to turn away from our limited assessment of earthly situations and be open to God’s wisdom, which far surpasses anything we could conceive of by ourselves.

Though Jesus performed many miracles, He regularly challenged those whose faith was based on their desire for signs and wonders. In today’s Gospel, a royal official, likely of high rank, traveled from Capernaum to Cana, about twenty miles, because his child was dying. His journey illustrates faith in Jesus’ divine authority, but his faith was imperfect—he believed Jesus had to be physically present to heal his son. Jesus heals the child from a distance, but He also challenges the official and the crowd: “Unless you people see signs and wonders, you will not believe.” Jesus desires a faith that trusts in His word, not one that depends on visible signs.

When we pray with a litany of requests, God in His mercy hears us. Sometimes He grants them, and sometimes He doesn’t. But He wants us to know that such prayers are not the ideal. God already knows our needs better than we do. He knows our struggles within family, finances, health, and every other detail of our lives.

The ideal prayer is one of adoration and trust. It’s a prayer that surrenders everything to God without dictating the outcome. It trusts God’s wisdom more than our own, enabling us to rest in His loving care, unburdened by our difficulties.

The royal official’s faith grew when he believed Jesus’ word without needing Him to be physically present. This is evident when he learned that his son was healed at the exact time Jesus said, “Your son will live.” The official’s faith was deepened, and his whole household came to believe. This shows how true faith, once rooted in trust, grows and spreads to others.

If this man’s faith had not matured, it could have been lost if another crisis arose and no miracle followed. A deeper faith rests in God’s will, whether or not another miracle occurs. The same is true for us. Our faith must not depend on God’s answer to our prayers. If He allows suffering, we must trust Him. If He heals, we must trust Him. Our faith must remain strong, rooted in Who God is, not in what He does.

Reflect today on the depth of your faith and how it shapes your prayers. Believe, worship God for who He is, love Him above all else, and trust His perfect will. Then entrust yourself and your loved ones to His providence, believing that God knows what is best.

My miraculous Lord, You are all-powerful and capable of anything You will. Please grant me a depth of faith that enables me to trust You more than I trust myself. May I always believe in You and worship You, not because of the favors You do for me, but because of Who You are. Jesus, I trust in You.

Sunday, March 15, 2026

Octomom’s Children Reach 16 – What Their World Looks Like Now

Natalie Denise Suleman, known around the world as “Octomom,” first became a global headline in January 2009 when she achieved something never before recorded in medical history. She became the first woman known to deliver a set of surviving octuplets, eight babies born during a single birth.

At that time, she was already raising six children, and with the arrival of the octuplets, her family instantly expanded to fourteen. The event itself would have been extraordinary under any circumstance, but the way it unfolded and the immense media attention that followed dramatically changed the course of her life. Her story has since been shaped by public controversy, personal challenges, and an unwavering devotion to her children.

Natalie Suleman was born on July 11, 1975, in Fullerton, California, and grew up as the only child of Angela Victoria Stanaitis, a dedicated schoolteacher, and Edward Doud Suleman, a Palestinian-American restaurant owner. From a young age, she developed a strong interest in child development.

This early passion guided her academic path, leading her to pursue studies at Nogales High School, Mt. San Antonio College, and eventually complete a bachelor’s degree in child development. Before motherhood took over her life, she worked as a psychiatric technician in a state mental hospital, gaining hands-on experience supporting individuals with complex needs.

Her journey into large-scale motherhood began through in vitro fertilization under the care of fertility specialist Dr. Michael Kamrava. Over several years, these IVF cycles resulted in her first six children: Elijah, Amerah, Joshua, Aidan, Calyssa, and Caleb.

In 2008, she made a significant and controversial decision to use all remaining frozen embryos in a single transfer. Although medical guidelines typically recommend transferring only a limited number of embryos, her doctor transferred twelve, a choice that later led to scrutiny. Eight of those embryos developed into viable fetuses, leading to the pregnancy that would define much of her public identity.

When Suleman delivered the octuplets on January 26, 2009, all eight survived despite being born prematurely. The birth brought instant global attention, and the media quickly labeled her “Octomom,” a name that would follow her for years. Reactions from the public were mixed.

Many were stunned by the rare medical outcome, while others questioned her decisions, her financial stability, and the ethics of the embryo transfer. Suleman found herself overwhelmed by scrutiny, judgment, and an intensity of media exposure few people ever experience. She was often reduced to simplified narratives rather than seen as a mother navigating an unusual and complicated situation.

Supporting fourteen children proved extremely difficult financially. Contrary to public assumptions, Suleman did not gain significant wealth from the publicity. She received no large financial payout and had no stable income at the time. In an effort to support her family, she turned to a range of unconventional jobs, including modeling, adult entertainment work, celebrity boxing events, media appearances, and attempts to monetize the “Octomom” name.

These choices were often driven by necessity rather than desire. Despite her efforts, financial pressures mounted, and she filed for bankruptcy in 2012, reporting approximately one million dollars in debt.

Her financial struggles led to legal problems in 2014 when she faced welfare fraud charges for failing to report certain earnings while receiving public assistance. She ultimately entered a no-contest plea on a misdemeanor charge, completed community service, repaid the funds, and received probation. This episode added another layer of public scrutiny to her already complicated story.

By 2013, Suleman chose to step away from media attention almost entirely, focusing on creating a more private and stable environment for her children. For more than a decade, little was publicly shared about her life beyond occasional social media posts. Her priority became raising her children with structure, privacy, and as much normalcy as possible.

In 2025, the octuplets reached their sixteenth birthday, a milestone she acknowledged with a heartfelt message expressing immense gratitude and love for each of them. As her children have grown, Suleman has begun slowly re-engaging with the public on her own terms. She has spoken openly about raising a profoundly autistic son, Aidan, and the unique challenges and rewards involved. She has also reflected on past regrets, including wishing she had pursued legal action against her fertility doctor for transferring so many embryos.

Her older children have begun sharing their own perspectives on their life experiences, including memories of the moment they learned eight new siblings were on the way. Suleman’s parenting style today is described as structured and grounded, with strict rules about digital devices, social media use, and social boundaries. She emphasizes values such as humility, compassion, focus, and internal motivation, hoping her children will grow into adults who appreciate connection, responsibility, and service.

Natalie Suleman’s life remains a complex and deeply human story. The extraordinary medical event that brought her global attention became only one part of a much larger journey marked by resilience, sacrifice, challenges, and fierce love for her children. While public narratives often focused on controversy or sensational aspects of her situation, the heart of her story is a mother navigating overwhelming circumstances while raising a remarkable family. Her life continues to prompt discussions about ethics, media responsibility, reproductive choices, and public judgment, yet at its core, it reflects devotion, perseverance, and the enduring strength of family.

https://3lor.com/octomoms-children-reach-16-what-their-world-looks-like-now/

Spiritual Sight Restored

March 15, 2026
The Fourth Sunday of Lent (Year A)
Readings for Today
(Note: This Gospel is also optional for Years B & C with Scrutinies.)

Christ Healing the Blind By El Greco

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As Jesus passed by he saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” Jesus answered, “Neither he nor his parents sinned; it is so that the works of God might be made visible through him.” John 9:1–3

Imagine being blind throughout your life and then suddenly being healed. All of the sounds you had heard from childhood, all that you had touched, tasted, or smelled suddenly took on new form within your imagination as these images registered with sight for the first time. Colors suddenly made sense. Large items, such as trees that you had only heard in the wind and touched with your hands, could be seen from a distance, glimmering in the sunlight. Your mind suddenly perceived in a new way the utensils, clothing, and other items you used daily. Just as the blind man was filled with awe at receiving his sight, so too is the soul overwhelmed when freed from the blindness of sin and brought into the light of God’s grace.

The healed blind man was given a gift that those who can see from birth are not. Perceiving and understanding the physical world only through four of his senses, and then adding the powerful fifth sense of sight later in life, provided immediate wonder and awe, filling him with profound gratitude for something most of us take for granted.

Think of a person who lives a sinful life for many years and understands life only through the distortions of sin and selfishness. Once set free from sin, the person’s spiritual eyes are opened. Those who experience such a conversion are given a blessing that those who have been faithful throughout their lives do not receive in the same way. They understand the contrast between spiritual blindness and sight, and the newfound freedom they receive after conversion provides a greater understanding of the gift of God’s grace and its transforming effects. They will never forget the weight of bondage once caused by their sin.

One reason God permitted this man to be born blind and live that way into adulthood was to illustrate the contrast between spiritual darkness and light. This is part of what Jesus means when He says this man was born blind “so that the works of God might be made visible through him.” The miracle not only illustrated Jesus’ divine power but also symbolized the much deeper spiritual healing He offers to all. Just as the blind man received physical sight, we are offered the gift of spiritual sight through grace.

We are born with poor spiritual sight. Our fallen human nature, which suffers from concupiscence, tends toward selfishness and sin. Although capable of love and affection, a child is prone to selfishness, anger, emotional outbursts, and other “childish” behavior. Over time, with the guidance of good mentors, children begin to understand the value of greater patience and selfless acts of love, kindness, and generosity. Those who are not well-formed as adolescents or who choose to rebel selfishly in their later years never gain a clearer spiritual sight. The world around them remains blurry, and divine wisdom never penetrates their eyes of faith.

The story of the man born blind is an opportunity for each of us to examine how clearly we perceive our lives and the world around us. Just as the man was healed, we need healing from the blindness caused by our fallen nature. God’s grace restores our spiritual sight, allowing His light to illuminate all we encounter in life.

Reflect today on your own need to see more clearly. We need our spiritual sight restored and sharpened if we are to perceive ourselves and our world with divine Wisdom. It takes humility to admit we have poor spiritual sight, and profound humility to admit if we are spiritually blinded by sin. Learn from the wonder and awe that this healed blind man experienced, and know that our Lord wants us to have clearer spiritual vision.

My healing Lord, because of my fallen human nature and my sin, I often fail to see the light of truth with clarity. Please heal me, as You healed this blind man, so that I will understand my life and Your will more clearly and be filled with wonder and awe at the reception of that gift. Jesus, I trust in You.