Interesting question, in my view, one of the many lies we tell ourselves to feel better is the lie that someone else other than ourselves is responsible for our current state, our happiness, the quality of our life, and our reality. In other words, the lie that our well-being, our happiness, and our life, in general, is the responsibility of other people or the government.
Yes, you and I cannot control everything in our environment; in most cases, we cannot control that which happens to us. Truth be told, our justification, reasons, or excuses we may advance, may make sense. However, the truth is that in the end, no amount of justification, reasons, or excuses will change a thing.
Nevertheless, we are always 100% in control of our reactions (perception, attitude, emotion), our choices and actions, or the choices/actions we do not make.
The effects of that are that,
- · One is likely not going to take ownership (victim mentality)
- · One is likely not going to take responsibility (take charge)
- · One is likely not going to be accountable (liable)
- · There will be Less or lack of proper personal investment (knowledge and healthy)
- · There will be Less or lack of proper personal care and love
- · There will be an attitude of carelessness and entitlement
- · There will be a lack of self-awareness, disorganization, and lack of self-regulation.
- · One is likely to blame everyone or everything but himself or herself.
In essence, Fyodor Dostoevsky highlights the following above lying, he says; “Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
I do realize that for many of us, lying is easier and convenient, be that as it may, we should never forget that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie hurts forever. It is time to step up, it is time to grow, time to progress, time to be a blessing, time to live life and live fully.
In ending,
“I've learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and not on our circumstances.” - Martha Washington
“Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.” - Nelson Mandela
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” - Jim Rohn
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