Friday, December 04, 2020

What's something that sucks about being white?

Quick disclaimer here: I am not White. I am not European. I am Asian, and I come from such a part of the world where History lessons are not tied up with Identity Politics and the concept of “White Guilt”. So perhaps you will be a bit shocked.

If you are white, everyone will accuse you of racism, oppression, cultural appropriation, sexism, homophobia, Islamophobia - every sin in the world, even though you by all standards are better than 95 percent of the world.

What’s about slavery?

Did you know that slavery existed throughout the entire history of human beings? Europeans were also held as slaves - not only in Ancient Rome, but also quite recently - by historical standards - as part of the Arab, Barbary and Ottoman slave trades.

In Constantinople (present-day Istanbul), the administrative and political center of the Ottoman Empire, about a fifth of the population consisted of slaves in 1609 - many of whom came from Caucasus, Eastern Europe, and Africa.

And yet there is no “Turkish” guilt whatsoever. There is no “Arab” guilt. No one in the Arab or Turkish world has a “White Pride Parade” today, nor are Arabs forced by their educational system to cast aside their glorious history and deride their ancestors for slavery.

You can read the same about Slavery in muslim Spain, in Iran, and so on.

Slavery was ubiquitous until it was ended in the 20th century. By Europeans.

What’s about “colonialism”?

Did you know that it also existed pretty much everywhere in the world?

Here, you can see, that almost a third of the European continent was once a place conquered by the Islamic states, let alone the Islamic conquest of the North Africa. Why no one speaks of Islamic colonialism and Islamic guilt?

Colonialism was ubiquitous until it was ended in the 20th century. By Europeans.

Life was a mess before the 20th century - pretty much everywhere in the world. The whole concept of human rights, that we today take for granted, did not at all exist until it was established by Europeans.

I am by no means claiming that Europeans are - or were - holy.

It is just that everything bad that is ascribed to Europeans - colonialism, racism, slavery, sexism - was ubiquitous everywhere in the world, until it was ended by Europeans. It is just that Europeans were more successful at doing these things.

So please, stop hating your(European) history and take pride in it - just as everyone else in the world does. Every history of every race and ethnicity has its bright and its dark moments. Let’s forget what is long gone and look forward to a world where no such things will exist - only beautiful moments!

When We Show Humility and Faith, You Act, O Lord

When We Show Humility and Faith, You Act, O Lord
December 4, 2020

Friday of the First Week of Advent

Matthew 9:27-31

As Jesus passed by, two blind men followed him, crying out, “Son of David, have pity on us!” When he entered the house, the blind men approached him and Jesus said to them, “Do you believe that I can do this?” “Yes, Lord,” they said to him. Then he touched their eyes and said, “Let it be done for you according to your faith.” And their eyes were opened. Jesus warned them sternly, “See that no one knows about this.” But they went out and spread word of him through all that land.

Introductory Prayer: Lord Jesus, I want to begin this prayer with the same attitude that these two blind men demonstrated. I approach you with humility and full knowledge of my sins. I do not try to hide them—you already know them through and through. Instead, I repent of them and offer you a contrite heart that longs for your healing touch of mercy.

Petition: Lord Jesus, help me to see as you see.

  1. Son of David, Have Pity on Us! Lord Jesus, these blind men sought you with attitudes of humility and contrition. They approached you fully aware of their limitations and weaknesses. In fact, it was because of these limitations that they drew near to you. Perhaps if they had been healthy, they might never have moved toward you. They didn’t feel any self-pity or approach you complaining about their situation. They didn’t ask, “Why did you allow me to be born blind? It’s not fair that I cannot see. Why did this have to happen to me?” They asked none of these questions in the face of suffering—the type of questions I am so prone to ask. Lord, please help me to be profoundly aware of my weaknesses and to draw near to you in the midst of trials. Those men who had once been blind were able to soar high with their wings of faith. What gifts of grace does Our Lord wish to grant me through my current ills and woes?
  2. Do You Believe That I Can Do This? Lord Jesus, all things were created through you. I truly believe that you can heal; I truly believe that you can cure; I truly believe that you have total power over all created realities. Please increase my faith in you and in your power over all the events and activities of my life. I believe that you permit all that happens to me for a reason. If it is something that is difficult, you permit it so that you can bring good from it. Please strengthen me so that I can collaborate with you in bringing good out of evil.
  3. They Went Out and Spread Word of Him throughout the Land: When we approach you with humility and faith, you act in our lives in truly remarkable ways. Your actions in our lives cause us to love you more and to experience within ourselves a profound gratitude. Despite your stern warning, the blind men couldn’t keep silent about your curing them. How else can we show our gratitude than by telling those around us about the great things you have done for us? Your actions in our lives inspire us to spread your word. How can we put that light under a bushel basket? How can a city set on a hill be hidden? How can we not tell those around us of all the great things you have done for us?

Conversation with Christ: Lord, your ways are not our ways. You see good where we may only see evil. I need a vision of faith so I can interpret actions and events with an attitude of confidence and gratitude. You are in charge. I trust in you and want to convince many others to confide in you as well.

Resolution: I will offer a word or gesture of encouragement to somebody in need.

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The True Messiah

December 4, 2020
Friday of the First Week of Advent
Readings for Today

Saint John Damascene, Priest, Religious and Doctor—Optional Memorial

And their eyes were opened. Jesus warned them sternly, “See that no one knows about this.” But they went out and spread word of him through all that land. Matthew 9:30–31

Who is Jesus? This question is much more easily answered today than it was at the time Jesus walked the Earth. Today we are blessed with countless saints who have gone before us who have prayerfully and intelligently taught much about the person of Jesus. We know Him to be God, the Second Person of the Holy Trinity, the Savior of the World, the promised Messiah, the Sacrificial Lamb and so much more.

The Gospel above comes from the conclusion of the miracle in which Jesus healed two blind men. These men were overwhelmed with their cure, and their emotion overtook them. Jesus instructed them to “See that no one knows about this” miraculous healing. But their excitement could not be contained. It’s not that they were intentionally disobedient to Jesus; rather, they did not know how else to express their sincere gratitude other than to tell others about what Jesus had done.

One reason Jesus told them not to tell others about Him is because Jesus knew they did not fully understand Who He was. He knew that their testimony about Him would fail to present Him in the way that was most truthful. He was the Lamb of God. The Savior. The Messiah. The Sacrificial Lamb. He was the One Who came into this world to redeem us by the shedding of His blood. Many of the people, however, wanted a nationalistic “messiah” or a miracle worker alone. They wanted one who would save them from political oppression and make them a great earthly nation. But this was not Jesus’ mission.

Oftentimes we can also fall into the trap of misunderstanding Who Jesus is and Who He wants to be in our lives. We can want a “god” who will save us only from our daily struggles, injustices and temporal difficulties. We can want a “god” who acts in accord with our will and not vice versa. We want a “god” who will heal us and free us of every earthly burden. But Jesus taught clearly throughout His life that He would suffer and die. He taught us that we must take up our own crosses and follow Him. And He taught us that we are to die, embrace suffering, offer mercy, turn the other cheek, and find our glory in that which the world will never understand.

Reflect, today, upon whether Jesus would caution you about speaking too loudly about your vision of Who He is. Do you struggle with presenting a “god” who is not actually God? Or have you come to know the very Person of Christ our Lord to such an extent that you are able to give witness to Him Who died. Do you boast only in the Cross? Do you proclaim Christ crucified and preach only the deepest wisdom of humility, mercy and sacrifice? Recommit yourself to a true proclamation of Christ, setting aside any and all confused images of our saving God.

My true and saving Lord, I commit myself to You and pray that I will come to know and love You as You are. Give me the eyes I need to see You and the mind and heart I need to know and love You. Remove from me any false vision of Who You are and replace within me a true knowledge of You, my Lord. As I come to know You, I offer myself to You so that You may use me to proclaim Your greatness to all. Jesus, I trust in You.

Thursday, December 03, 2020

Pourquoi la mort de Maradona a-t-elle un tel impact ?

Dans ce portrait jubilatoire, le voici en noir et blanc, visage pur sous les boucles brunes, repéré à 12 ans par la télévision officielle, qui confie ses deux rêves : “Jouer la Coupe du monde et la gagner.”

Alors que l'Argentine est muselée par la junte du général Videla, Maradona apparaît alors comme une promesse inespérée, jeune sauveur et porte bonheur, que l'on touche comme son fils et que l'on embrasse comme un frère.

Éternel phénix renaissant de ses cendres, Maradona était doté d’un instinct sans pareil du ballon rond et de l’image 👇

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Authentic Christians

December 3, 2020
Thursday of the First Week of Advent
Readings for Today

Saint Francis Xavier, Priest—Memorial


“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the Kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father in heaven.”  Matthew 7:21

It’s frightening to think of those of whom Jesus is speaking. Imagine arriving before the throne of God upon your passing from this earthly life and you cry out to Him, “Lord, Lord!” And you expect Him to smile and welcome you, but instead you come face-to-face with the reality of your ongoing and obstinate disobedience to the will of God throughout your life. You suddenly realize that you acted as if you were a Christian, but it was only an act. And now, on the day of judgment, the truth is made manifest for you and for all to see. A truly frightening scenario.

To whom will this happen? Of course, only our Lord knows. He is the one and only Just Judge. He and He alone knows a person’s heart, and judgment is left only to Him. But the fact that Jesus told us that “Not everyone” who expects to enter Heaven will enter should grab our attention.

Ideally, our lives are directed by a deep and pure love of God, and it is this love and this love alone that directs our lives. But when a pure love of God is not clearly present, then the next best thing may be a holy fear. The words spoken by Jesus should evoke this “holy fear” within each of us.

By “holy,” we mean that there is a certain fear that can motivate us to change our lives in an authentic way. It’s possible that we fool others, and maybe even fool ourselves, but we cannot fool God. God sees and knows all things, and He knows the answer to the one and only question that matters on the day of judgment: “Did I fulfill the will of the Father in Heaven?”

A common practice, recommended over and over by Saint Ignatius of Loyola, is to consider all our current decisions and actions from the point of view of the day of judgment. What would I wish I had done in that moment? The answer to that question is of essential importance to the way we live our lives today.

Reflect, today, upon that important question in your own life. “Am I fulfilling the will of the Father in Heaven?” What will I wish I had done, here and now, as I stand before the judgment seat of Christ? Whatever comes to mind, spend time with that and strive to deepen your resolve to whatever God reveals to you. Do not hesitate. Do not wait. Prepare now so that the day of Judgment will also be a day of exceeding joy and glory!

My saving God, I pray for insight into my life. Help me to see my life and all of my actions in the light of Your will and Your Truth. My loving Father, I desire to live fully in accord with Your perfect will. Give me the grace I need to amend my life so that the day of judgment is a day of the greatest glory. Jesus, I trust in You.

Wednesday, December 02, 2020

Why do many people go on vacation to Asian countries?

Top 10 holiday countries in 2019 based on the number of Dutch holidaymakers:[1]

  1. Germany 3,581,160
  2. France 2,639,120
  3. Spain 2,589,120
  4. Belgium 1,714,800
  5. Italy 1,321,600
  6. Austria 1,279,600
  7. Great Britain 1,097,500
  8. Greece 882,400
  9. Turkey 725,300
  10. Portugal 602,300

France is the number two holiday destination for the Dutch. It is nearby and many Dutch people often stay at a French campsite on their way to Spain and Italy.

Greece and Turkey are popular for their affordable (family) all-inclusive hotels/resorts. But flying to Greece and Turkey is also relatively cheap.

Indonesia is an important destination for the Netherlands, because of its historical ties, but also because Indonesia has a lot to offer as a holiday destination.

Before Covid19, an average of 200,000 Dutch people visited Indonesia, even 250,000 Dutch people visit Thailand every year. The intercontinental flights to Asia are relatively cheap due to the competition from many airlines such as; Emirates, Thai, Singapore, Lufthansa, Etihad, Turkish, Qatar, etc. For example, flying to South America is sometimes more expensive than to Southeast Asia, while some South American destinations are much closer.

In addition to affordable flights, life in the Southeast Asian countries is cheap, the population is friendly and it is safe.

Before Covid19, KLM flew daily to Jakarta, Bali, Bangkok, Kuala Lumpur and Singapore.

What makes Indonesia attractive are the small-scale affordable unique private resorts.

Indonesia and other Southeast Asian countries are developing in their own way. But modernization is also penetrating these countries, just like in the Western countries.

Skyline of Jakarta

Dubai is not really a holiday destination for couple of weeks. Either one is in transit to Asia, for business, or one flies here for a city trip for a weekend.

What is the simplest way to stay young?

Anastasia BulavaForensic Analyst, Remote Viewer, Philosopher & Truth Finder

Deshun Wang ( 84 y.young)

And the good news - it is not about diet, exercise, cosmetic surgeries, pills, or anything else you would need to buy. All you have to do is three things listed below:

  1. Ask yourself a question: How old I am feeling now?

It does not matter if you are 50 now and may look 25 on the outside. However, it is of utmost importance if you are 50 but feeling inside 25. The longer you can stay young in heart, the longer you will be psychically young too. Whenever we have a joy of life, playfulness, curiosity, fearlessness, open to meet new people, falling in love, desire to go to new places or to start new projects - everything that usually younger people are experiencing - we stay young in heart.

Yasmina Rossi ( 64 y.young)

2. Ask yourself a second question: What do I have in plans 5–10–20–30 years from now?

You should always have a purpose for your future - a set of goals, aspirations, and plans. The program of death is initiated internally as soon as your plans have ended. On a piece of paper write down your vision of the nearest and distant future in detail and bit by bit go after your dreams and follow your plans. Keep revisiting or editing your master plan at least once a year, so it would never end and your internal youthfulness re-programming will continue.

3. And, finally, examine: What kind of people are around me?

Toxic, negative people are sucking our life energy and literally killing us. Protect your life and keep your distance from anyone criticizing, bullying, and putting you down, no matter how close your relationship with them. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people, close to you in your young spirit, sharing with you similar values & views on life.

Valentina Yasen (65 y.young)

Conclusion: Psychological death brings physical death. Stay young in heart and you will be young for the rest of your long life!

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Wishing everyone health, happiness, and always remaing young in your hearts!

Anastasia Bulava

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A Miracle of Superabundance!

December 2, 2020
Wednesday of the First Week of Advent
Readings for Today


Then he took the seven loaves and the fish, gave thanks, broke the loaves, and gave them to the disciples, who in turn gave them to the crowds. They all ate and were satisfied. They picked up the fragments left over–seven baskets full.   Matthew 15:36–37

This line concludes the second miracle of the multiplication of the loaves and fishes as told by Matthew. In this miracle, seven loaves and a few fish were multiplied to feed 4,000 men, not counting the women and children. And once everyone ate and were satisfied, seven full baskets remained.

It’s hard to underestimate the effect that this miracle had on those who were actually there. Perhaps many did not even know where the food came from. They just saw the baskets being passed, they took their fill, and passed the rest on to others. Though there are many important lessons we can take from this miracle, let’s consider one of them.

Recall that the crowds had been with Jesus for three days without food. They were amazed at Him as He taught and continually healed the sick in their presence. They were so amazed, in fact, that they showed no sign of leaving Him, despite the obvious hunger they must have been experiencing. This is a wonderful image of what we must seek to have in our interior life.

What is it that “amazes” you in life? What is it that you can do hour after hour without losing your attention? For these first disciples, it was the discovery of the very Person of Jesus that had this effect upon them. How about you? Have you ever found that the discovery of Jesus in prayer, or in the reading of Scripture, or through the witness of another, was so compelling that you became engrossed in His presence? Have you ever become so engrossed in our Lord that you thought of little else?

In Heaven, our eternity will be spent in a perpetual adoration and “amazement” of the glory of God. And we will never tire of being with Him, in awe of Him. But too often on Earth, we lose sight of the miraculous action of God in our lives and in the lives of those around us. Too often, instead, we become engrossed in sin, the effects of sin, hurt, scandal, division, hatred and those things that lead to despair.

Reflect, today, upon these first disciples of Jesus. Ponder, especially, their wonder and awe as they stayed with Him for three days without food. This draw of our Lord must take hold of you and overwhelm you so much that Jesus is the one and only central focus of your life. And when He is, all else falls into place and our Lord provides for your many other needs.

My divine Lord, I love You and desire to love You more. Fill me with a wonder and awe for You. Help me to desire You above all things and in all things. May my love of You become so intense that I find myself trusting You always. Help me, dear Lord, to make You the center of my entire life. Jesus, I trust in You.

Tuesday, December 01, 2020

How can you use psychology to manipulate people?

20 simple psychological tricks to influence people

1. Ask a question and wait

There is an old trick used by interrogators, inspectors and auditors, which is to ask a question and then remain silent, without losing eye contact.

This causes the other party to start talking and provide more information.

2. Get without resistance

If someone is talking in an exalted or worried way about something, you just have to extend your hand and it will automatically hand you everything that is holding at that moment without realizing it.

3. Don't blame people, blame the situation

Prevent others from getting mad at you in a very simple way: don't use the word "you."

Don't blame anyone directly, blame the situation you're talking about.

The correct words in the correct order influence the decisions of others.

4. Offer alternatives

Always look for a plan "B" to problems.

This makes your interlocutor begin to guide his path, believing that he is in control of the situation.

5 Less critical

Start using plural terms, for example: instead of saying "don't do this" say "let's not do this".

By speaking this way, we make it seem like someone else is breaking the rules, and at the same time, we make sure that whoever really does it does not feel criticized.

6. Silent interruptions

If a person does not let you speak or give an opinion, subtly throw something away (keys, pen, notebook). Bend down to pick it up and start talking. It is a way to interrupt without the other person noticing.

7. Imitation with reward

When you want to enlist someone's help, try to discreetly imitate their movements and postures during the conversation; This creates a false sense of familiarity. Remember to do it in a subtle way, otherwise you might take it in a not so pleasant way.

8. Empathize with anger

If you want to calm someone down, seek empathy with their feelings. It doesn't matter if it's anger, pay attention to what they are saying and let them know that you understand, that they have the right to be angry, and that it is okay to be upset. As you accept the situation, the emotion and anger that invade you will disappear.

9. Learn to negotiate without contracts

It doesn't matter if it's a raise, homework, or the price of a car, visibly shrink your figure for the first two offers and use a pained gesture, sigh, or a drop of the eyes. This gesture causes that most of the time they lower or raise the initial offer depending on what you negotiate.

10. Avoid confusion

Forget unnecessary dances when walking on the sidewalk. Intentionally look over the shoulder of the person coming towards you; that way, your gaze shows him where you are going and that will make him move to the opposite side.

11. Glances that catch

When you meet someone you like, look at the color of their eyes and then smile a little. This type of glances causes people to respond delightedly.

12. Address people by name

By addressing people by name you will make them warmer, as an immediate bond of trust and friendship is created, although it may not work with someone very formal.

13 Less nerves, more gum

Apparently when we eat something, the brain sends the signal that we are safe. For this reason, you should have a chewing gum on hand and use it at the right time.

14. Remember that silence is worth gold

When someone says something to you that bothers you, just turn around and be silent. People are uncomfortable with silence and will often end up apologizing to avoid discomfort.

15. Gradual commitment

People will agree to do what you ask if you ask for something easier first.

16. Warm hands

Try to keep your hands warm before shaking them; you'll make a more positive impression and have a better chance that people will want to be with you.

17. Asking for favors makes you more attractive

Ask him to do you a small favor; He'll think you like him just because he's willing to do you a favor.

18. Take advantage of fatigue

When people are tired, their defenses are low and they are more willing to listen. It is the best time to request something without having to force the situation.

19. Recognize the enemy

Find out who is following in your footsteps in a very simple way: just yawn and look at the people around you. Since yawning is contagious, you will immediately know who is watching you.

20. Smile

A frank smile will always be the best of all weapons, because when we do, we transmit happiness, confidence and well-being to others.

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How do you motivate yourself?

  1. Compare yourself to your own self, not others. Comparing yourself to other people and their achievements can kill the last ounce of motivation you may have, so avoid doing that. On the other hand, being in a competition with your own self will give you enough motivation boost you need to always keep going.
  2. Start small. Big tasks or projects tend to have an intimidating effect on us, which can trap us in the cycle of procrastination. So in order to get things done, break that huge, daunting task or project into bite-size pieces. You’ll realize it’s much easier to tackle it that way.
  3. Use another person as your motivator. Promise your friend or family member that you are going to finish something in a given time and also ask them to check up on your progress from time to time. This way, you won’t give up on the first obstacle since now you have to keep your word not only to yourself but to your loved one(s) as well.
  4. Get motivation from people you don’t personally know. Nowadays, there are a lot of motivating podcasts, blogs, books, quotes, and success stories you can use as yet another source of motivation. Don’t get lost in “a motivational maze” though; sometimes interacting with such content can lead to inaction and worsening of procrastination.
  5. Listen to energising music. Upbeat or inspiring music can boost your mood and make you feel happy. When you feel happy, it becomes easier to find the motivation you need.
  6. Don’t fall victim to pessimism. It drains both your mental energy and motivation.
  7. Profit from your failures. Don’t insult yourself if you don’t get the results you envisioned. Instead, reflect and ask yourself if that failure can teach you something valuable.
  8. Envision the aftermath of your motivation. Imagine the positive feeling you’ll experience when you get things done.
  9. Be grateful for what you currently have. When you are in a bad place, it’s easier to see everything through a negative lense. During such times, ask yourself what things you often take for granted but should be grateful for; it will help you to focus on things you have while recharging yourself with motivation and positivity.
  10. Reward yourself after you accomplish something. It will give you the endorphin boost and refill your motivation again and again.

What are some habits of super healthy people?

  1. They understand the importance of spirituality and strive to know themselves as best as possible.
  2. They do not take everything personally.
  3. They are kind to themselves.
  4. They take responsibility for their life instead of constantly shifting blame on other people for their misfortunes.
  5. They are critical of themselves when it is due.
  6. They try not to hold themselves to unrealistically high standards.
  7. They avoid putting themselves or other people on a pedestal.
  8. They do not have expectations (or are working on it) to avoid potential disappointments.
  9. They accept that mistakes are an inseparable part of life and therefore, one cannot help making them.
  10. They keep in mind that one’s mistakes does not have a final say in what kind of person they develop into.
  11. They strive to get rid of inherent, harmful biases.
  12. They are aware that their words can make or break the other person, which helps them to carefully choose the words they use on a daily basis.
  13. They do not hold grudges (or try not to). Because they very well know that the one harboring the grudge suffers more than the one towards whom the grudge is directed.
  14. They try to stay positive during tough times regardless of how overwhelming it all may feel.
  15. They are always there for themselves for the support and validation they need.

What is the rudest country in Europe?

Rudeness is not as common in Europe as it might be in some countries, but it does exist. I grew up in Europe, have worked there and have been in pretty much any situation one can be in, so I feel I can reflect a bit.

Generally in Europe, rudeness isn’t a standard retort you have to expect. People are aware of a proper way to behave, and will stay on that level as far as possible. But a point can be reached, anywhere, where that bubble bursts.

And that point comes sooner, and will be more dramatic, in some places.

I’ve had the most traumatic experiences of rudeness in my life in the US, but I think it’s safe to say that you can experience rudeness verging on violence relatively easily in the following places in Europe:

  • Austria; I’ve been accosted and screamed at openly and for no discernible or justified reason there on many occasions, and I tread very carefully there these days, knowing that the pleasantness on display is volatile.
  • Germany; it takes a while for a German to blow up, but they are very confrontational, and will seek you out if you do something in public they disapprove of. Things can get loud and violent very quickly then. When I’m in Germany, I keep my head down, challenge no one, and try to be as invisible as possble.
  • Great Britain; there is a segment of the population which, given enough blood alcohol, will turn on people. Luckily, you see them and hear them coming from a mile away. Unfortunately, there are rather a lot of them. An English town centre on a weekend night is like a zombie apocalypse.
  • France; perhaps it’s a streak of Gallic fierceness, but the French can get unbelievably angry, often as a pack and in an organised fashion, and turn violent quickly. Well, what’s new. Any time some law gets passed, a few cars are turned over and set aflame in Paris for good measure. Let’s not forget that this is where kings got their heads taken off once. I’ve once had a dog set on me by a campsite owner near Chartres for parking the wrong way around.

Rudeness in Europe usually comes from an inclination to “set someone’s head straight” about a perceived transgression against their person or public order. So in a way, when you’re being treated like that in Europe, it’s usually a sign of vigilantism, and of you being perceived as a perpetrator of some kind.

This is different from Eastern European rudeness, which is more of the hungover and self-loathing variety, or Scandinavian rudeness, which is usually just social awkwardness bordering on the autistic spectrum. Or Asian rudeness, which seems to increase toward the lower echelons of mental capacity.

What are the top ten craziest facts you know in psychology?

  1. When you hug someone longer than 20 seconds, oxytocin - the love hormone - gets released into your body that makes you trust the person you’re hugging.
  2. You start feeling depressed as a result of overthinking. In this state, your mind creates problems that don't exist.
  3. People are more likely to be happier when they are kept busy, as this stops them from thinking about the problems or negative things in life.
  4. When you remember a past event, you are actually remembering the last time when you remembered it.
  5. Comedians and funny peoples are actually more depressed than others.
  6. When you are single all you see are happy couples, when you are not you find happy singles.
  7. Women judge so quickly, and their judgement rarely goes wrong.
  8. The key to happiness is spending your money on experiences rather than possessions.
  9. Romantic love is biochemically indistinguishable from having a severe obsessive-compulsive disorder
  10. The people who prefer window seat in every transport like to be alone during the travel.
  11. Anger lasting for more than 3 days indicates that you’re not in love.
  12. A human head remains conscious for around 20 seconds after being decapitated.

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What is the dark side of Italy as a tourist

  1. Sexual harassment. Women traveling without men, either alone or in groups, are likely to get whistled at, heckled, maybe even groped or followed. I doubt most of the guys who do this are rapists. Mostly they’re just clueless. There’s a popular myth that female tourists are looking for sex. I knew an Italian who would ride the #64 bus in Rome just for kicks (it runs from the train station to the Vatican, so most of the passengers are tourists). He would always start up a very forward conversation with a woman (“you have a nice body, where are you going”), cop a feel if he could, and sometimes follow her off the bus. He honestly couldn’t see anything wrong with this behavior. When I was leading group tours in Italy, the women would always get shouts, whistles, and hisses. I once talked to a British woman who had spent years traveling in different parts of Italy. She said it happens everywhere, and the best response is either to scream and try to embarrass them, or just ignore it completely.
  2. Tourist scams. Most restaurants, shops, etc. will give tour guides a commission when they bring in a group that spends money. This is just how things are done. Most guides will only take their groups to businesses that provide good quality and value. But sometimes tour guides will lead travelers to less-than-scrupulous establishments that simply offer a higher commission. Some of these places may even inflate their prices when tourists arrive, in order to give the guide a bigger cut.
  3. Short-changing. Some shops will try to squeeze an extra half euro out of anyone who is obviously a tourist. They might charge you for an item that’s priced slightly higher, or give you less change than you’re entitled to. Sadly, mostly older Italians tend to do this. This happens most often in bars and other places where the transactions are small and paid in cash. It’s such a small amount of money that I usually don’t worry about it unless it’s blatant.
  4. Pickpockets. This happens in crowded areas such as the Colosseum, and public transit where people are packed together. The thieves work in teams, usually one or two of them creating a distraction while another one goes for your bag or wallet. They are very good, and you will NOT notice them. Your safest bet is to secure everything valuable with a strap or a belt, and keep it underneath at least one layer of clothing. Keep your wallet and phone in your front pockets. Look around before you take anything out. I know someone who had his phone snatched out of his hand while he was using it. The thief blended in immediately. He never saw who did it.

Don’t let these warnings ruin your vacation. When it comes to safety, I would pick Rome over Los Angeles any day. 99% of the people you encounter in Italy are going to be kind, generous, honest, and wonderful. It’s why I stayed there for almost 4 years. It’s why I keep going back.

There’s one more dark side of Italy as a tourist: Overwhelm.

Your brain can only absorb so many works of art before it gets saturated. No matter how well you plan, you’re not going to see everything, and if you try to hard you’ll ruin your vacation.

Try to deeply enjoy a few things, and give yourself plenty of time to relax. Your greatest memory won’t be craning your neck in the Sistine Chapel while 139 people are pushing you.

Your best memory will be the evening you spent wandering around with no specific plan, the beer you drank in a piazza while you gazed at the fountain, or the unexpected conversation you had with an interesting stranger who you’ll never see again.

The dark side of Italy is that too many tourists come with a checklist of things they must see, they rush through it all with barely enough time to appreciate where they are, and return home with nothing but a few pictures that nobody will remember in 6 months and a bit of extra credit card debt.

That’s the biggest rip-off of all.

After seeing some of the comments, I realize that most of my time in Italy was in Rome, and these problems may not be as bad in other parts of Italy.

Still, the question was about the dark side of Italy, and I’ve seen a lot of Italy besides just Rome.

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The Eyes of Faith

December 1, 2020
Tuesday of the First Week of Advent
Readings for Today


Turning to the disciples in private he said, “Blessed are the eyes that see what you see.  For I say to you, many prophets and kings desired to see what you see, but did not see it, and to hear what you hear, but did not hear it.”  Luke 10:23–24 

What did the disciples see that made their eyes “blessed?” Clearly, they were blessed to see our Lord. Jesus was the One promised by the prophets and kings of old and now He was there, in flesh and bone, present for the disciples to see Him. Though we do not have the privilege to “see” our Lord in the same way that the disciples did some 2,000 years ago, we are privileged to see Him in countless other ways in our daily lives, if we only have “eyes that see” and ears to hear.

Since the time of Jesus’ appearance on Earth, in the flesh, so much has changed. The Apostles were eventually filled with the Holy Spirit and sent forth on a mission to change the world. The Church was established, the Sacraments were instituted, the teaching authority of Christ was exercised, and countless saints have given witness to the Truth with their lives. The past 2,000 years have been years in which Christ was continually made manifest to the world in countless ways.

Today, Christ is still present and continues to stand before us. If we have the eyes and ears of faith, we will not miss Him day in and day out. We will see and understand the countless ways that He speaks to us, leads us and guides us today. The first step toward this gift of sight and hearing is your desire. Do you desire the Truth? Do you desire to see Christ? Or are you satisfied with the many confusions of life that seek to distract you from what is most real and most life-changing?

Reflect, today, upon your desire. The prophets and kings of old “desired” to see the Messiah. We are privileged to have Him alive in our presence today, speaking to us and calling to us continually. Foster within yourself a desire for our Lord. Allow it to become a blazing flame which longs to consume all that is true and all that is good. Desire God. Desire His Truth. Desire His guiding hand in your life and allow Him to bless you beyond what you can fathom.

My divine Lord, I know You are alive today, speaking to me, calling me and revealing to me Your glorious presence. Help me to desire You and, within that desire, to turn to You with all my heart. I love You, my Lord. Help me to love You more. Jesus, I trust in You.