A mix of good and bad.
Good because they’re fun to be around. I flirted with a lot of them. Some were a little younger than me and others way older lol. This is one girl I flirted with. She said she’d make me crazy in bed and playfully said it’s going to be difficult for her to say “yes” to me asking her out lol. A lot of them are polite, hard-working, kind, family-orientated, etc. Some are conservative as Catholic views on marriage are prevalent in the culture. You can’t even call them sexy or give any hint of sexual interest without them feeling uncomfortable lol. Others are more liberal and had no problem sexting me lol.
A lot of them go crazy for me lol. When I try to start a conversation, they’ll be too shy to speak. They’ll cover their mouths, blush, or shy away from the cam. like this Filipina here.
Appearance - Many Filipinas that i met are not light-skinned as you see in the American media’s portrayal of them. They’re usually tan or dark.
Food - Many Filipinas that I’ve seen are skinny. That’s partially due to their diet. Filipinas often eat healthy foods like fish, rice, and more. One told me fish is sold whole in Filipino markets which isn’t available in the state of America I live in. A bunch of them know how to cook and will gladly cook for you lol.
Music - Most Filipinas I know love music. They often dance and sing. Me and my ex sang random songs once.
Drinking - Drinking is pretty common among Filipinas on special occasions.
Interracial dating - While it may seem like Filipinas will only go for white men, they will also go for men of other races. It’s just that white men usually chase after them. I asked my Filipina friends if race mattered and most said it didn’t. Don’t be fooled by what the media tells you.
Single moms - I know loads of Filipina single moms, but don’t jump to conclusions. They aren’t single moms because they made irresponsible choices such as having unprotected sex with their boyfriends. In fact, most Filipinas I met had planned pregnancies during marriage. Their marriages didn’t work and they were left with the children. Why so many single moms? According to one Filipina I asked, she said it’s because there’s no birth control or sex ed where she lives in the Philippines. Once again, this reflects the Catholic church’s views on marriage and sex.
Language - I love how many Filipinas can speak English along with their native languages. I was actually surprised to see how good their English was. Some of it was bad and hard to understand, but that’s to be expected. I wanted to hit on other foreign women, but it seems a lot of them don’t speak English. They taught me a little bit about Tagalog, Cebuano, and Bisaya.
Bad because I had a few bad experiences dating them and met a bunch of them with serious personal problems. My 1st Filipina ex was 37 years old and I was 25. Our relationship ended because I wouldn’t tell her “I loved you” after she said, “I love you, babe.” I told her it took time for me to say that. We’ve only went out for like 1-2 weeks and I didn’t feel ready to say it. She assumed I didn’t love her so she got anxious and left lol. My 2nd Filipina ex was around my age. We had a mostly good relationship until she started avoiding me. She made up a lot of excuses for why she couldn’t see me. I often saw her chatting with her friends so I knew she wasn’t being completely honest with me. It seems a lot of poor Filipinas have problems with dysfunctional families and trust issues so that’s why they’re like that.
Family - The stories Filipinas told me about their families are pretty tragic. My 1st ex talked about how her mother didn’t love her. My 2nd ex told me how her father walked out on them out of nowhere and came back, but only to take from them material-wise. She resented him for that. Another girl told me how her family favored her brother over her and it caused her a lot of problems. Other girls told me their parents abandoned them so they had to survive by themselves. One had to sell school supplies at 12 years old just to buy lunch for school.
I have to be honest and say I had horrible dating experiences with Filipinas because of dysfunctional family issues. Many Filipinas had traumatic childhoods which still affect them to this day. They don’t want to talk about it for two reasons. 1) Therapy is out of the question. Many Filipinas are dirt poor so affording therapy is extremely difficult. 2) Filipinas grew up in a culture that puts family above everything. Filipinas have this mindset that they can smile their problems away and forget the past rather than confront problems in Filipino families.
Gossip — Sadly, gossip seems to be common among Filipinas. They slander each other out of envy or anger and others believe the lies. One of my exes talked about how Filipinas saw her give a gift to her male friend and they claimed she was flirting with him. It's trashy behavior.
Toxic masculinity — I saw a video of two Filipinas fighting over a man. It's primitive behavior and unattractive lol. While I'm not necessarily saying it's common for Filipinas to fight each other, it's common for Filipinas to put each other down over men. Filipinas go to great lengths to keep a man. This is because, in Filipino culture, you're nothing without a man. Me and my friend tried showing a Filipina proof her boyfriend cheated on her. To our shock, she didn't believe it and called us liars lol. Filipinas tear down single mothers with men because they want men's approval. It's very toxic behavior.
Money - You probably heard the stereotype that Filipinas are scammers and that’s true for some. My ex warned me of those kinds. They made Americans fly to the Philippines with the hopes they’d have a serious relationship only to steal their money and take off. I met some Filipina scammers and refused to give them money when they asked. They got mad lol. For other Filipinas, they don’t care about money despite being poor. Believe me, they’re very poor lol. My exes had to run their own small shops and work overseas in Saudi Arabia just to support themselves at the minimum level. Our video calls had horrible video quality and we often lost connection due to piss poor internet connection. I saw the conditions they lived in and it’s dirt poor. A lot of places look run down. Good Filipinas want loyalty, time, attention, affection, and love from men nonetheless.
Overall, there are good and bad Filipinas like people in every country. Nevertheless, Filipinas are unique in their own way.
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