I have been married to my Cebuana wife for just over 11 years. We have 2 amazing kids and as I work away from home Monday to Friday they have been raised primarily by my wife.
What a job she is doing. Can’t fault her at all.
My wife as many Filipinos is a mixer. She likes to partake of the society she lives in here in England. She is a committee member of our local village hall, as well as the one who cleans the village hall. She is a dinner lady at the primary school where our kids study. She has always been ready to join in.
While my wife was indeed a churchgoer when we married, she knew I wasn’t. I never denied her going to church and actively went with her. During her time in the UK, she has come to see that not everything has to revolve around the church and in fact we haven’t been to church for over 5 years.
We have a large group of Filipino friends here in Lincolnshire. They are my main friends. Friendly, fun, and always ready to help and join in.
When you marry a Filipina, you marry her society, her friends, and family.
Completely honest, and trustworthy. She listens to my advice and then makes her own decisions! Don’t try to control them as I have seen them turn the tables on husbands and the husbands become dominated. Yes, you read right. The older a Filipina gets the more she will become independent. However, she is completely loyal.
Don’t misunderstand, I know of Filipinas who have had affairs just like in other societies, and I can only imagine that the husbands are not treating those ladies with the respect and devotion they should be giving.
I have a great extended family. I get on really well with my Second Mum. Whenever we go to Cebu I’m treated like a star, but I don’t take advantage of the hospitality. My mother-in-law has visited us in England 3 times, so she knows the kind of life we have, and she understands we are not RICH! I don’t care what the rest of the family thinks about us. My mother-in-law is in charge in Cebu. She controls the finances there. Oh and yes we send money every month. My wife was the earner in the family. I always knew I would be sending money. £250 a month for 11 years. No, it doesn’t bother me. My life is easy. My Filipina wife makes sure.
I suppose one of the main aspects of marrying someone from the Philippines is they don’t have expectations specific expectations about who they are marrying. My wife didn’t expect to be rich. She is happy with the life she has now. A very moderate life. All she wanted was a "buotan" husband. A good husband. Hopefully, I have been more than she wanted or needed. She also doesn’t mind my singing. In fact, because of my father-in-law, I now play the guitar. Music is a huge part of Filipino life.
Benefits of marrying a Filipina? More than I can possibly write about here. But I tried!
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