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On the tribulations of an expatriate in Europe
Tuesday, December 30, 2025
The Faithful Remnant
Monday, December 29, 2025
A young man and his grandfather
Posted by 13h
A young man and his grandfather.
In 1974, 23 year-old Dan Jury made a life-altering decision to move his 81-year-old grandfather, Frank Tugend, out of a nursing home and into his own apartment to care for him full-time. What started as a personal commitment became a transformative moment in American elder care. Dan’s intimate photographs of their three years together were published in the 1978 book Gramp, co-authored with his brother Mark. The visual memoir, raw and emotionally honest, sold over 100,000 copies and played a pivotal role in the rise of the hospice movement, showing that dying at home, surrounded by love, was far more humane than institutional care.
Dan’s decision was a radical departure from the social expectations of the 1970s. While his peers pursued careers and relationships, Dan focused on caring for Frank—bathing him, managing his medications, and providing comfort during moments of confusion. Many saw these sacrifices as a waste of his youth, but Dan later reflected that those years with his grandfather taught him more about life than any job or relationship ever could.
Frank, a Ukrainian Jewish immigrant who had survived the hardships of the Depression, spent his final years not as a burden but as a teacher, showing Dan the strength in vulnerability, the value of family, and the grace in accepting help. Their bond, captured in photos of tender moments, demonstrated that caregiving is not a sacrifice but a profound exchange of love and lessons. Through Frank, Dan learned about the beauty of mortality and the dignity every individual deserves, regardless of age. Their story changed how America viewed elder care and inspired thousands to choose home care over institutionalization, proving that family responsibility is about love, not burden.
Credit to respective owner.
Dignity matters more than charity
Been pricing donated clothes and organizing shelves for 9 years. Most people drop off bags without looking at me. I'm just the old man sorting through their leftovers.
But I notice everything.
Like the boy who came in last November, shivering in a torn hoodie. Couldn't be more than fourteen. He touched a winter coat on the rack, navy blue, barely worn, then checked the price tag. $12. His shoulders sagged.
He walked to the counter with a thin jacket instead. $3.
"That coat would fit you better," I said, nodding toward the navy one.
"Can't afford it," he mumbled.
After he left, I couldn't stop thinking about him. Minnesota winter was coming. That thin jacket wouldn't cut it.
Next week, he came back. Headed straight for the navy coat, touched it like it was gold, then walked away. This happened three more times.
Finally, I pulled the coat off the rack. Took it to the back room. Put a "SOLD" tag on it.
When he came in the following Tuesday, I was waiting. "Hey, kid. Someone bought this coat but never picked it up. Store policy, after two weeks, we have to discount it." I handed it to him. "It's $3 now."
His eyes went wide. "That's not... you're lying."
"You calling me a liar?" I said, pretending to be offended.
He bought it. His hands shook as he counted three dollar bills. Put it on right there in the store, zipped it up, and his whole face changed. Like he'd found armor.
"Thank you," he whispered.
I did that seventeen more times that winter. A single mom needing work shoes. An immigrant family needing blankets. A homeless woman needing socks. I'd move items to the back, mark them down, create "store policies" that didn't exist.
Then a customer caught me. Watched me do it.
Instead of reporting me, she donated $100. "For your store policies," she said with a knowing smile.
Word spread quietly. Regular customers started funding my "pricing errors." They'd buy $50 gift cards and leave them at the register. "For whoever needs it."
Last week, a young man walked in wearing that navy coat. But he wasn't fourteen anymore. He was in his twenties, college sweatshirt underneath.
"You're Arthur, right?" he said. "You gave me this coat seven years ago. Told me it was store policy." He smiled. "I knew you were lying. But you let me keep my pride."
He handed me an envelope. Inside was $500.
"I'm a social worker now," he said. "I help homeless youth. Because someone showed me that kindness doesn't have to be humiliating. It can look like a store policy."
I'm 72. I price used clothes that smell like other people's lives.
But I learned this, Dignity matters more than charity.
Help people without making them feel small.
Lie about the price. Bend the rules. Make up policies.
Let them walk out with their head up.
That's what changes lives.
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Let this story reach more hearts....
Credit:Astonishing
By Mary Nelson
Thy Kingdom Come!
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Sunday, December 28, 2025
A simple act of kindness—opening a door—became the doorway to love, healing, and a legacy that defies hatred
Posted by 8h
She weighed 68 pounds, her hair had turned white from starvation, and she'd given up on surviving—then an American soldier opened a door for her, and everything changed.
May 7, 1945. Volary, Czechoslovakia.
Gerda Weissmann couldn't walk anymore. After marching for over 300 miles through snow and starvation, after watching friends collapse and die beside her on the road, after six years of ghettos and concentration camps and systematic destruction of everything human—she'd reached the end.
She was 20 years old. She looked 80.
Her hair, once dark and thick, had turned completely white from malnutrition. Her body weighed 68 pounds—skin stretched over bones, barely enough flesh to keep her alive. Her feet were wrapped in rags because her shoes had disintegrated months ago. Every step on the frozen ground was agony.
But the physical pain wasn't what had broken her. It was watching everyone she loved disappear.
Her parents. Her brother. Her friends from the ghetto. The girls she'd worked beside in the labor camps. One by one, they'd been taken—to gas chambers, to executions, to death marches they didn't survive.
Gerda had outlived them all. She didn't know why. She didn't know if that was blessing or curse.
The death march had started in January 1945, when the Nazis evacuated camps ahead of advancing Soviet forces. Guards forced hundreds of starving women to walk through the brutal European winter—no destination, no purpose except to keep moving until they died.
They walked through snow. Through freezing rain. With almost no food. No shelter. Anyone who couldn't keep pace was shot and left in ditches.
Gerda watched friends fall. Girls she'd known for years, who'd survived everything the camps threw at them, who were so close to liberation—they fell in the snow and never got up.
By May, there were only about 120 women left from the original group of hundreds. They'd marched over 300 miles. They were more dead than alive.
Then on May 7, they heard something that didn't make sense: vehicles approaching. American vehicles.
The SS guards ran. Just abandoned the women and fled into the woods, terrified of being captured by Allied forces.
The women—those who could still move—stumbled toward an abandoned bicycle factory where they'd been sheltering. Liberation was here. Finally here.
But Gerda couldn't feel relief. She was too exhausted. Too broken. Six years had taught her not to hope, because hope was just another thing that could be taken away.
Then a jeep pulled up. American soldiers climbed out.
One of them approached the factory entrance where Gerda stood—this skeletal figure in rags, white-haired, hollow-eyed, barely able to stand.
His name was Lieutenant Kurt Klein. He was 25 years old. He wore an American uniform, but he'd been born in Germany—a Jewish refugee who'd escaped to the United States just before the war trapped his family in Europe.
Kurt had spent the war fighting his way across Europe, liberating camps, seeing horrors that would haunt him forever. He thought he'd seen everything. He thought he was prepared.
But when he looked at Gerda—this girl who looked like a ghost, who weighed less than 70 pounds, who stood swaying on wrapped feet—something in him broke and healed at the same time.
He walked toward the factory entrance. And then he did something nobody had done for Gerda in six years.
He opened the door for her.
Not ordered her through it. Not shoved her. Not treated her like cargo or a number or something less than human.
He opened the door and gestured for her to enter first, with respect, with courtesy, like she was a person who mattered.
Gerda would later say: "He was the first person in six years who opened a door for me. He was the first human being who treated me like a person."
That simple gesture—opening a door—represented everything the Nazis had tried to destroy. Dignity. Humanity. The idea that a Jewish woman deserved basic courtesy.
Kurt spoke to her in German. Gently. He asked if she was Jewish. She said yes.
He asked if there was anything he could do for her.
After six years of being told she was worthless, of being starved and worked and marched toward death, someone was asking what he could do for her.
Gerda looked at this American soldier—this man who spoke her language, who'd opened a door, who was looking at her like she mattered—and something that had been frozen inside her for six years began, impossibly, to thaw.
She was taken to a hospital. For weeks, she hovered between life and death. Her body was so damaged by starvation and disease that doctors weren't sure she'd survive. Her weight had dropped so low that recovery seemed impossible.
But Kurt visited. Constantly. He brought her food—real food, not camp rations. He talked to her. Listened to her. Treated her not like a victim or a charity case, but like a person he was getting to know.
He told her about his life. How he'd escaped Germany in 1937. How his parents hadn't made it out. How he'd fought across Europe hoping maybe, impossibly, some of his family had survived.
They hadn't. Kurt's parents had died at Auschwitz.
So he understood. He understood loss in ways most people couldn't. He understood that Gerda wasn't just physically wounded—she was carrying grief that would never fully heal.
But he also understood something else: that survival meant choosing to live anyway. To build something new from the ashes of what was destroyed.
As Gerda slowly regained strength—as she went from 68 pounds to 70, to 75, to eventually something approaching healthy—she and Kurt talked for hours. About their families. About what they'd lost. About whether hope was possible after so much darkness.
And somewhere in those conversations, something extraordinary happened.
They fell in love.
Not the fairy tale kind where love conquers all and makes everything better. The real kind. The kind where two people who've been broken find that together, they're stronger than either could be alone.
Kurt asked Gerda to marry him.
A year earlier, Gerda had been on a death march, certain she'd die before liberation came. Now an American soldier—a man who'd opened a door for her, who'd treated her like a person when she'd forgotten what that felt like—wanted to spend his life with her.
On June 18, 1946, in Paris, they married. Just over a year after liberation.
Gerda wore a wedding dress. Not rags. Not a camp uniform. A real wedding dress.
She stood beside Kurt—not as a survivor being pitied, but as a woman choosing a future with the man she loved.
They moved to America. To Buffalo, New York. Built a life. Raised children. Became citizens of the country that had liberated them and given them sanctuary.
But they didn't just build a private life. They dedicated themselves to speaking for those who couldn't speak anymore.
Gerda wrote a memoir: "All But My Life." She spoke at schools, universities, community centers. She told her story—not to dwell in trauma, but to teach. To make sure people understood what hatred leads to. To make sure the six million who didn't survive wouldn't be forgotten.
Kurt joined her. Together, they became two of the most prominent Holocaust educators in America. They spoke to millions of people over decades. Students. Soldiers. Politicians. Anyone who would listen.
They didn't do it for recognition. They did it because they'd survived when so many hadn't. Because their love story only existed because millions of others didn't get love stories. Because remembering the dead meant telling their truth.
Their marriage lasted 57 years. Fifty-seven years from that moment when Kurt opened a door for a 68-pound girl with white hair and hollow eyes.
Kurt died in 2002. Gerda held his hand as he went—the same way he'd held hers through decades of remembering and healing and building a life from ashes.
Gerda is 99 years old now. Still speaking. Still teaching. Still telling the story of what hatred destroys and what love can rebuild.
She talks about that moment in May 1945 when Kurt opened a door for her. How such a small gesture—courtesy, respect, basic human dignity—represented everything the Nazis had tried to extinguish.
The Nazis wanted to reduce Jews to numbers. To things. To bodies that could be worked to death and then discarded.
Kurt Klein opened a door for Gerda Weissmann and treated her like a person.
That simple act of humanity was an act of defiance. It said: no, she's not a number. She's not a thing. She's a human being who deserves dignity.
And from that moment—from that opened door—came a love that lasted 57 years. Came children and grandchildren. Came decades of teaching and testimony. Came a life that proved the Nazis failed.
They tried to destroy Gerda. They killed her family. They starved her. They marched her through snow hoping she'd die.
But she survived. She married the soldier who opened a door. She built a family. She spoke for the dead. She lived fully and loved deeply and taught millions.
That's not just survival. That's victory.
Think about the symbolism of that opened door.
For six years, Gerda had been pushed through doors. Shoved into train cars. Forced into camps. Driven through gates. Always at gunpoint, always without choice, always treated like cargo.
Then Kurt opened a door and waited for her to enter first.
That gesture said: you have choice again. You have dignity again. You're a person again.
From that opened door, Gerda walked into a new life. A life where she could make choices. Where she could love and be loved. Where she could speak and be heard.
The death march that was supposed to kill her became the path that led to Kurt.
The starvation that should have destroyed her body became the crucible that revealed her unbreakable spirit.
The war that took everything from her also gave her something she never expected: a love story that would inspire millions.
Gerda Weissmann weighed 68 pounds when liberation came. Her hair had turned white. She'd given up on surviving.
Then an American soldier opened a door for her.
And from that moment of simple human kindness came 57 years of marriage, a family, decades of teaching, and a legacy that continues today.
The Nazis wanted Gerda to be a number who died on a death march.
Instead, she became a woman who fell in love, raised a family, taught millions, and proved that even out of humanity's darkest night, love and light can be reborn.
She's 99 now. Still telling the story. Still teaching. Still living proof that hatred doesn't win.
Love wins.
The door that Kurt opened in 1945 is still open. It's the doorway to hope. To healing. To the possibility that even after the worst humanity can do, the best of humanity can rise again.
Gerda walked through that door 79 years ago.
And she's been showing others the way through ever since.
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