Overcoming what you fear is one of life's most fulfilling experiences. Facing your fear is what builds you as a person. It will make you confident, competent, and courageous. Facing fear is a necessary part of growth.
4 THE ULTIMATE STEPS TO MASTER YOUR FEARS
1) DECONSTRUCT YOUR FEARS- Fear is composed of two things: a)How likely do you believe an outcome is? b)How do you think it will affect you? Try to find these two components of fear in your fears, and with logic and common reason try to find the core and weak spot of your fears.
2) SAFETY DOESN’T EXIST- You risk your life more by doing everyday activities than by doing the things you fear. Risk is always present, it is an inherent part of life. Risk is a necessary part of the growth of personality. You don’t jeopardize your safety by facing your fears, your safety is already jeopardized. If that is the case, why do you tolerate your fears? Face your fears.
3) EXPEND YOUR COMPETENCE ZONE- Every time you take a risk and face what scares you you become better at managing your fears. By doing something you fear, you gain competence and confidence. By expanding your competence zone you expand your comfort zone because these two are the same. Once you start facing your fears, you will realize that you are not limited as you believed.
example: FEAR LADDER-Overcoming fear of dogs:
1-thinking about dogs
2-looking at the picture of a dog
3-imagining a dog
4-looking at a real dog
5-petting a small dog or a puppy
6-try to be around a grown dog with his owner
7-be alone with a grown dog
4) FOCUS ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT- Focusing on the importance of what you are doing gets you through the task. Where you fear is there is your task. Look at that as a problem you need to solve. When you solve those problems you will be rewarded with personal growth, competence, confidence, and higher self-esteem. When you are afraid try to realize are your freedom and independence more important values or to be afraid.
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