Many psychological and other events in a person's life can be attributed to childhood trauma; being homosexual is not one of them.
Your body was prewired to be the way it is from conception. Many pregnant women knew, somehow, that their unborn child was gay. Many fathers knew it as well, which is why the parents were not surprised when their child admitted to them their sexuality. They loved them, no matter what.
Besides all the other abuses a child can go through, many of them brutal, being told by a parent that you are a mistake and cutting you out of their lives, that is a mixed bag of abuses in and of itself, just for being gay.
If there are any evangelical “Christians” that want to pounce on this remark, save your breath and the energy it would take to type in a condemnation towards me and the LGBTQ+ readers. It will fall on deaf ears.
If you want to see the effects of the trauma (to a young person) of being homosexual, then I am going to suggest you take a trip to Los Angeles, CA, and the surrounding area. There are thousands of homeless youth on the street. Some of them are out there because they ran away from an abusive home or through the failed foster kid programs. That, in itself, can cause trauma to a young mind. Then you have the gay teens. Over forty percent of the homeless youth in Southern California are LGBTQ+. Some were beaten before being kicked out of their home. That can traumatize you.
Their being LGBTQ+ was not caused by childhood trauma; they were already LGBTQ+. The trauma came from the aftermath of their parent/relatives discovering or being told their child is LGBTQ+.
Many readers will know I am the product of severe child abuse, and it only got worse after my adoptive mother (Delilah) discovered I was gay when I was sixteen; she damn near beat me to death. I was more than abused by her; I was also sexually molested and raped by a cousin that was five years older than me, for five years (from age eight to thirteen). All of that did not make me gay; I already was. I did not know there was a name for it until I was fourteen.
You have to keep one thing in mind here. The war against homosexuals in America began in 1950, yet in 1952 it hit its peak. The man who started this was Senator Joseph McCarthy. On June 9, 1954, he was censured by the Senate and removed from all committees. He no longer had any power. His war also included his “seek and destroy” of anyone in America who he felt were communists in America. June 9th is an important date to me, as I was born the next day on June 10, 1954. I had to sit back and watch the hell the LGBTQ+ community was put through pure hell by society, the government, and religions. I am now seventy years old.
Living and enduring all the abuse at the hands of Delilah and her extended relatives, I was forced to bury who I was for forty-five years. I was married for forty years at that time. My marriage did not end because I was gay; it ended because my wife died in 2015. I openly came out a month after my wife’s death. BTW, she knew I had buried being gay, and she knew I was devoted to only her.
People are gay because that is the way it is. Could you think of it this way? Did childhood trauma cause you to be redheaded or a lefty? Did childhood trauma cause a child to be born with a mental disability (Down’s, CP, Spina-Bifita, or any other condition)? Did child abuse cause the scarce condition of “Intersex?” It was also known as hermaphroditism, the condition of having both male and female reproductive organs. They are born with both sexes and genitalia. The answer is No. So, why is being born homosexual any different? People are born the way they are; it is society and religions that want to make an issue about it.
There is enough hate in the world; why do we choose to hate our children for being who they are?
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