People get depressed all the time. It’s normal.
But, we can’t stay in that position for a long time.
Why? Because it affects our productivity, our day, and honestly it wastes our time.
So, how do I make my day as lively as possible? Here are three things I do.
- Reading
- Writing
- Talk to some friends
Before I get deep into why I think that these three things are important,
I want to talk about how to prevent depression to happen. (This is important)
Why do you think people get depressed?
How are there some people that can go through all the pain and still do their best?
What should I do so I don’t get depressed?
These are the questions I’ve had when a lot of my friends have told me that they are depressed.
I obviously didn’t say it to them, but I had three of these questions wandering in my head.
After thinking about it, I did realize some things.
You get depressed when reality didn’t meet your expectation.
Note this : Just because you’re giving it your all, it doesn’t mean that it will have a good outcome. There are things that you can and can’t control in your life.
The only way to prevent yourself from depression is if you have realistic expectations.
Just because it’s a sunny day, it doesn’t mean that it won’t rain and make you soaking wet when you’re on the way to somewhere.
What can you control on that situation? You can bring an umbrella wherever you go.
Why? Because you can’t control the rain.
So, instead of expecting things to go your way, be more realistic with your thoughts and expectations and always prepare for the worst case scenario.
Another example is if you have some friends, they suddenly leave you, and now you don’t have anyone in life.
Well, you can’t really blame them from leaving you, you can’t control them, and they have their rights to do so.
What you can do is find some new people, and be nice to them.
Support your friends, be kind to them, know the line of jokes and rude.
Will they leave you? Maybe. After all, they have their rights to do so. But the likely hood of that is smaller.
What you should do is not chase happiness, but be anti-fragile.
When you chase happiness, just know that you will fail.
Do your best, but expect the worse case scenario.
Second question, how could people just go through depression with ease.
Here is the fact, the world doesn’t care about you to the fullest.
The only one who could help you is YOURSELF.
Not your mom, your friends, your girlfriend, NOT A SINGLE PERSON.
No matter how much they say all these great words to you, it might make you happier and more at ease.
But if you don’t pick yourself back up, then all those words would mean nothing.
If you are depressed, the world will still spin the way it does, the world system would still be the same.
It’s not about some people go through depression with ease. It’s not the case.
But, THEY JUST DO IT.
Why? Because they know the world wouldn’t give a flying shit. And the only way out is yourself.
Third question, what you should do to not feel depressed.
Well, you can’t. There must be some downs in your life to know when you are up.
There is no light without dark. That is the fact of life.
But here’s what you could do.
Expect less, be more realistic, try to be anti-fragile, know that you can’t control everything, and remember that no one could help you if you don’t face everything.
That’s a great mindset shift for you to feel.
But, now I will tell you what I do.
- READING. Why do I do this? Because it’s my hobby. It literally makes my mind at ease. And a great book would definitely make me happier.
- WRITING. Why do I do this? Well once again, it makes my life easier. But, what do I write when I’m depressed? The problem and the steps I need to do to fix it. Reflect on yourself, and find what should be fixed in your life. Even if you don’t know what to do, just find the solution that you think will help your life be better.
- Talk to some friends. Do not vent about your sad stories. Instead, talk about the sad stories AND WHAT YOUR SOLUTION IS. Why? when you only talk about your sad story, it will subconsciously be implemented in your brain that you are a depressed person. You are not a depressed person, you’re just feeling depression. These are two different things. So, whenever you give a sad story, tell about your goals as well, talk about your hopes, and the action plan that you’re thinking about doing. This is way better. It makes your life feel more positive. The only way to bring sad down is belief that you can reach your goals.
These are the things that I do when I feel depressed. It may not work for you.
But one thing is for sure.
When you are sad, just know that it’s just your downs of life.
Life is full of ups and downs, so just know that you will have your ups if you prepare for the worst.
Another thing is, sometimes when you are sad, it is just momentum and vibes.
What do I mean?
What I mean is if you are sad and you talk to your friend about that problem, it will just make the situation sad, and what happens is YOU WILL BE EVEN MORE SAD.
So, it’s okay to vent about your stories, BUT ALWAYS TALK ABOUT YOUR HOPES, AND SOLUTIONS.
That shows that you have belief, and it will make it more positive.
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